We've lived in four cities together, and we share our home, our creative work and our dreams with each other. Julie Spira Author, Online Dating and Netiquette Expert, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, Media Personality, and Author of the Bestseller, "The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online." Doing things on my own felt awkward and almost embarrassing at first, but over the course of time I have learned to embrace my own company.Doing exactly what I want to do, when I want to do it, is a true feeling of freedom and independence that I never could have experienced while I was in a relationship.
There are all kinds […] Read more The only time you should be hard to read is during a poker game or boardroom negotiations.Your first date is not one of those times, and yet so many of us are hard to read.Unless you’re specifically telling your date, “Hey, I like you! However, if you live in Chicago, Atlanta, Houston or Miami, you could also be correct. Like many other women living in San Francisco, I'm intelligent, career-driven, highly motivated, attractive and (yes, you probably guessed it) single. If you live in New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, or Boston, you could be right. As you mature and date more, however, you realize what's inside a person is more important than what is outside.
You may even have one of them on your call list for those late, lonely nights when you can't help yourself but send that 'you up? Could your city be the worst place to look for love? Sometimes people can be a tad bit superficial and think they must date someone who's hot and sexy. It's easy to lose sight of what's important in a relationship.The San Francisco dating scene is truly bizarre, which is why I've blogged about my experiences dating here a few times.It is human nature to seek connection, and we should all feel we have the tools we need to find each other.The reality is that we must hold two truths: Most people today are using online dating platforms to find these connections and the prevalence of gender-based violence is real.I'm approaching 30, and I've been dating him for over half a decade. And even after all the progress we've made in the name of women's independence, I'm still shamed for it.