For some reason, mainstream media has developed an obsession with Black women and our seemingly tragic lack of opportunites to jump the broom.
Unless you’re without access to the internet and broadband cable, by now you’ve heard that Black marriage rates are down and that Black women are more likely to be hit by lightning than to marry (I like to call this theory “The Black Female Thunderbolt Phenomenon”).
Forgive me for saying this, but I have a hard time stomaching this trend.Just because you were raised in a family of women, or that you’ve slept with so many of us that you could start a national sorority comprised of your sexual conquests, doesn’t make you qualified to tell me how to increase my chances of getting married.And let’s not forget that the statistics say that Black men aren’t buying into marriage either. That’s like Johnnie Cochran giving the State of California inside information to gain OJ Simpson’s conviction.As commitmentphobic as Black men supposedly are, I think there’s a valid reason to say that this advice dispensing could be viewed as a serious conflict of interest.When I think about it, I get why mainstream news outlets would choose to perpetuate yet another unattractive stereotype of Black women.
Women, particularly Black women, are an easy target for a patriarchal industry.It’s when one of our own joins rank with the establishment that we’ve got to really ask ourselves “What the hell is going on?” In his 2011 book “Ralph Richard Blanks, a law professor at Stanford University, states that one of the answers to the Black marriage crisis is for the mass of Steve Harvey advice-loving middle-class educated Black women to marry White men.Blanks (who by the way is married to a Black woman with multiple college degrees) continues “More than half of married black women who have graduated from college have a less-educated husband who did not.Yet despite the shortage of black male peers, black women do not marry men of other races.Black women marry across class lines, but not race lines.