When to give a man you are dating space

When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.MORE: A Guy’s Take on Neediness I met this guy years ago, let’s call him Craig.

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When I eventually met up with Craig at the bar, the first thing he said after our friendly hellos and my apology for changing things around last minute was: “I like that you didn’t cancel on your friends.It shows a lot about you and made me even more excited to see you.” I was off to a great start, but that didn’t last.Since Craig and I lived somewhat of a distance away (maybe about 40 minutes) I went out of my way to see him when it was convenient for him.When you bend over backward to please a man, you’re not really placing a high value on yourself and he doesn’t really have to do much work to land you.When a guy has you and gets to keep you without really putting in much effort, your stock inevitably goes down in his mind.

At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.I am not saying get him to pursue you by acting unavailable, I’m saying actually be unavailable.By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities.And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.