The chances are that, right now, you are fibbing about something on your online dating profile. In the competitive world of ‘Generation Swipe’ is it possible to stand out from the crowd and find love without a few little white lies?
Online dating websites have become increasingly popular as a means for meeting singles, but despite its success, it is a proven fertile ground for deception. Toma, an assistant professor in the department of communication arts at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, as much as 81 percent of people lie on their online profile.
Modern day dating is blighted by the fact that we are a generation that is becoming increasingly fickle, dismissing individuals for the most absurd reasons.
It is little wonder that singles feel pressurized to manipulate the truth to increase their social desirability.
You could easily put it all down to vanity but, in actual fact, online daters do not usually lie for the sake of lying —it is generally out of insecurity and fear of rejection, in the desperate search to find companionship.
Should you forgive someone after you have found out that they have been dishonest? Ask yourself if it is something you can overlook or is it too much of a whopper to stomach.
Given the amount of people lying on their dating profiles, it is more than likely you will find someone who has lied than someone who is being entirely honest.
The reality is that if you are adamant that you do not want someone who has fudged their details, even just a little bit, you will be left with very slim pickings.
Certainly, your date should come clean and reveal their little white lie to you in the very early stages of your relationship.
It would be completely unacceptable for someone to get intimate with you before telling you the truth.
If you are suspicious that someone is not being honest about a particular matter, probe him or her face to face, in several different ways if necessary, to get to the bottom of it.
Sarah, 33, London I often lie on my dating profiles; nothing too big, just sugar coating to make myself sound more normal and less like a social misfit.
Lying is something most people do, but just won’t admit to.
Stephanie, 31, Devon I reckon if you are good enough to get away with it, then go right ahead.