The dating scene can be murky — especially if you become interested in a guy and find out he has grown kids.
Ask your new man about his relationship with his ex. You may learn that he was divorced 15 years ago and his ex lives across the country, that he is a widower or that he sees his ex on a consistent basis because they have a strong co-parenting relationship.
Make an effort to understand the relationship your man has with his grown children.
Get to know more about the kids, such as whether they are in college, live at home with him, have kids of their own, if he gets together with them every Sunday and any other information you feel would be important to learn.
Think about how the relationship your man has with his kids and his ex impacts your relationship with him.
The circumstances may allow the two of you a lot of alone time to date and travel, or he may be constantly bogged down with parental duties and ex-wife encounters.
If you want to date a man with grown children, you must accept the fact that his family likely comes first in his life.
Meet your beau's grown children when the time is right.
Since the children are grown, you can have an adult relationship with them and talk about subjects you might have in common.
Getting to know his children will help you figure out your comfort level within the family dynamic.
Never adopt the role of a mother to the grown children. Grown children do not need a second mommy, even if their biological mother has passed away.
As such, do not discipline his kids, tell them what to do or expect them to open up to you the way they would with their mom.