It is one of the bitter truths of life that things don’t always go as planned, and divorce is one big example.
Going by pure logic, when a relationship isn’t working out and is causing you trouble, ending it should bring relief and peace.Unfortunately, the heart and soul rarely follow the ways of logic!Whatever the circumstances of the divorce, it is still the breakdown of a significant relationship, with a person that was meant to be a partner for life.It is normal to feel a sense of loss for something that wasn’t good and some kind of regret for how things could have worked out.A divorce turns a person’s life upside down, all the more so if there are kids involved.
A divorced person may also look at his or her new found freedom as a sign of their loneliness rather than as an opportunity to find love.
They may feel angry – at the ex, at the lawyers, at the world in general.
If the divorce was messy and the marriage involved abuse of any kind, there are likely to be more complex emotions at play.
All this can leave a divorced person feeling vulnerable and scared; it appears as though they’ve failed and can never find true love again.
However, the human spirit has tremendous power to heal and regain its strength, and there’ll come a time when the divorced person can see the light at the end of the tunnel and realize that like everyone else, they have the right to be happy and to be loved as well.
Now, when exactly this happens cannot be determined in advance; it is completely dependent on each person’s individual personality and their situation.