Or, if you think the time to have a baby is after college, say that.
Get to know your children’s friends and their families.
Also, be sure to monitor what your children are reading, watching and listening to, and encourage your children to think about consequences from behaviors they may be exposed to in the media. Dating during adolescence is common and can be part of healthy development.
Ensure your child has regular visits with a medical provider.
There are some tips you can follow that may help in talking with your teen about relationships and pregnancy prevention. Start talking to your teen about changes to expect during puberty; your expectations for dating and contraception and condom use; how to avoid teen pregnancy, STDs, and HIV/AIDS; and how to have healthy relationships.
Talk early and often, and be ready to listen to your teen and answer questions that might come up.
For general tips on how to get the conversation started and ideas of what to talk about, visit OAH’s Talking with Teens pages on these topics.Research shows that teens who talk with parents about these topics begin to have sex at later ages, use condoms and birth control more often if they do have sex, have better communication with romantic partners, have sex less often than other adolescents, Children often begin asking questions about where babies come from at a young age.These are great opportunities to lay the foundations for later talks about your expectations and values about sexual behavior and relationships. Be clear and specific about family values and rules about when it’s okay to start dating and your expectations around dating and sexual behavior.Take advantage of opportunities to have these important conversations. If you have strong beliefs and values around sex and marriage, communicate those plainly.For example, if you believe people should not have sex until they are married, say that.If you think teens in high school are too young to be involved in a serious relationship, say that, and why.