”); hateful taunts against black soccer players that are practically as common as goals at games in the country; and, most recently, an Italian gymnast’s racist remarks after she lost to black U. This was most recently brought to our attention by this guy who announced that he would never date a black woman. Here’s a taste: * “There is this stereotype that black women are prostitutes or something like that. Think bananas thrown at Cécile Kyenge, Italy’s first black government minister (prompting the Guardian to ask “Why Is Italy Still So Racist? That you’re asking the question back in the states is also relevant in light of the old racism- and colorism-fueled narrative about black women getting shunned in the dating department. seem to think I’m exaggerating this when I bring it up, or act offended when I rave about the great time I had there and how much I enjoyed the unusual amount of attention and praise (yeah, I’ll admit it! How do I explain to them that it’s not an attack on U. ” Well, when it comes to Italian men, black women and “What is going on over there? There, at and on plenty of other forums, the Internet provided some very anecdotal and unofficial validations and explanations for what you experienced. ”“I’m a mixed race woman married to an Italian, living in Northern Italy, and I can tell you your skin colour does not matter to them.” * “Italian have a thing for sisters, and that’s a fact.” * “If you are wondering whether or not if Italian men really do love black women, the answer is, of course we do! The country has had more than its fair share of bigotry and hate-fueled incidents over the past few months.
It was a reminder of some of the depressing data about how race plays out in online dating and the real-life attitudes that likely reflects. Why, in Italy, of all places in the world, do we keep hearing that black women are not only welcomed romantically but also seemingly put on some sort of a pedestal? Admittedly, I started writing this response assuming that I’d end up speaking to someone who had authored a book on this phenomenon or studied interracial relationships across the world, or at least had some well thought-out theory about Italy’s specific culture and history (maybe something to do with Ethiopia? I was expecting something that could explain why what appears to be widespread bigotry didn’t touch black women in this area (or, maybe it did, but just manifested in some type of hypersexualization way). Italian men have a reputation for being family oriented and for being wonderful lovers. Also, make sure to fill up empty wine or water glasses for other people at your table. When you greet a friend you kiss on the cheek, left first, right second. You just kind of make a kissing sound while you do it. If someone asks you out be weary that they might be doing it just out of the assumption that you’re an easy lay. Here is an interesting article on dating Italian men. Don’t get wasted in public and talk with weird dudes you don’t know no matter where they are from and never go to someone’s apartment or leave a club with anyone. They’re also famous for being cheaters, liars, and scammers. That “holy shit I’m so excited about life” shit-eating grin that everyone has in the US is not common in Europe. Italians do not use “ciao” for people they don’t know. If you don’t know someone use “salve” to say hello and arrivaderci to say goodbye. Don’t reach across the table, or snap and scream at your waitress. Filling up ONLY your glass when other glasses are empty is not nice. If you plant a big wet one on someone you’ll scare them. However, since I married one, I have to say that there are obviously exceptions to every rule. Dating in Italy can be a lot like playing the lottery. You cannot go into a church without your shoulders covered. It’s because people are “rude” it’s just not how they are. When going to someone’s house always, always, ALWAYS bring a gift with you. Don’t use “ciao” unless the other person does first. Don’t eat anything until everyone else starts eating. You’ll either win a hopeless romantic or a spoiled man-child who could possibly ruin your life with his two-timing and drama. Usually, a Capuccino is only drank in the morning (but I drink it all day cause I wanna). If you’re a dude prepare yourself to be kissed and hugged a lot by other dudes. Buy a pretty scarf and carry it with you all day when you’re site-seeing. A bottle of wine, some chocolates, flowers, something. This never changes if you’re talking with someone older than you.
Here is a great slideshow titled, “Five Reasons To Date An Italian And Five Not To.” 2. At a bar (cafe) you can order whatever you want but in a home they’re not going to make you a capuccino or Americano so don’t ask for it. Aperitivo is like “happy hour” where people grab a snack and a drink usually from a cafe or somewhere like Kitch.
While you’re in Italy you might lose ten pounds from walking but you’ll likely gain twenty from the overload of gelato. Here is the ten best places to get gelato in Florence.
Go where the locals go and avoid the tourist traps where the gelato is anything but delicious.
They are insanely nice to everyone, even one-night-stands. Unless you’re just in it for fun, then totally who cares. HOWEVER, statistics are statistics most likely because there is also a high number of undocumented post-war Albanians who are nuts and involved in illegal shit in Florence that give everyone a bad name.
Try, if possible, to at least hang out casually (and non-sexually) a few times before things escalate so he will take the relationship seriously if that’s your goal. This isn’t to say that Albanians are evil rapists because that’s not true and most of them are like the nicest people ever and are hardworking, good people. This absolutely does NOT mean that men from other nationalities are safer.
They’re not usually dangerous but they can pickpocket on occasion. That gives you the cold, completely insane, racism that exists between Italy and the Romani. Almost all rapes in Florence are reported by American students statistically accusing eastern European men (often from Albania).