For some, it’s when the gas light comes on…for others it is proactively when you’re at half of a tank because you believe going lower hurts your vehicle.
If you don’t ever add fuel, your car simply stops working. Some cars call for every 3,000 miles…others 5-7,000.
This is because, with the exception of your home, for many people your car is your most expensive possession.
The same reasoning could be said for your romantic relationship in that it is likely one of your most important intangible possessions.
So, when your relationship is strained, have you ever considered going to therapy?
In my experiences, for some individuals “couples therapy” is a stigmatized term accompanied with shame and perceived failure.
I would like to challenge this thought pattern by reminding people that attending couples therapy demonstrates a commitment to working on, and even enhancing, one’s relationship.
Perhaps most alarming though when it comes to couples therapy is how under-utilized it is.Consider the following: “Only about one fourth of divorcing couples report seeking professional help of any kind to improve their relationship (Albrecht, Bahr, & Goodman, 1983; C. Johnson et al., 2001), and those who do wait an average of 6 years after serious problems develop to seek marital therapy (Notarius & Buongiorno, 1992, as cited in Gottman & Gottman, 1999)” (Doss, Simpson, & Christensen, 2004, p. A study of married couples identified the top reasons couples sought therapy.Tied for number one were both communication-based reasons: “emotional affection” and general “communication”.Under “emotional affection” issues like “lack of love” and “affection/intimacy” emerged.Likewise, under “communication” a “lack of understanding” as well as not “discussing problems” emerged.Tied for second place were “divorce/separation concerns” and also “to improve the relationship.” Other notable reasons included “argument/anger” as well as issues specific to the marriage.