The piece points out that platonic friendship is a relatively new concept, and therefore carries a lot of negative stigma.
Only in the 1960s did women and men finally mix on (relatively) equal terms at school, work and in social circles, so there is not enough history of true platonic friendships to make a ruling one way or the other.
I have also been (though not as often), the one who was secretly being crushed on.But, I also have been in a few longstanding purely platonic friendships where I can safely say that neither party had any interest in the other.I bet that if you think about platonic friendships in your life, you will see that you had all three scenarios as well. The article summarizes an interesting paper by April Bleske-Rechek, Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Wisconsin – Eau Claire.I won’t give a full summary of the paper because the article does a good job (or you can read the full paper), but I wanted to share with you my thoughts on it and how it relates to the Modern American Male.
The paper basically says that platonic friendships between sexes are always imperfect, meaning there is always a possibility that the sexual attraction will get in the way.The results of the study suggest that men are much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa.In addition, men incorrectly perceive that the women are attracted to them. men consistently the level of attraction felt by their male friends.” The paper also points out that as we get older two things happen.First, the number of platonic friends decreases, but so does the sexual attraction.So as we age we will have less cross-sex friends, but the possibility of acting on the sexual attraction decreases.I did some reading on this subject and I found a great little op-ed piece in the that somewhat contradicts the academic paper.