Listen, we’re just as shocked as you are when you sleep with us on a second date.
But, as you know, this doesn’t mean we want a relationship with you. Pay attention to how he handles himself in the next 24-48 hours.
And understand that everything he does next is designed to keep you INTERESTED in him without allowing you to fall in LOVE with him.
If he’s excited about you and wants you to be his girlfriend, he’ll call you the next day to say, “I had fun, when can I take you out to dinner this week? So stop blaming them for sleeping with and texting you.
” If he’s already planning his exit strategy, he’s not going to say, “I think we made a mistake. If you start listening to their silences, you can finally hear the whole truth.
I take my job as your personal trainer for love very seriously.
I try to honor and respect every woman who reads my emails and offer advice that is honest but not too brutal.
But I have to admit, from time to time, I get an email that makes me roll my eyes.The most recent one was as mercifully short as it was inane.All it said was this: “What does it mean when a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you?” To the best of my knowledge, this email was not a joke, but it had me thinking about other obvious questions that had only one possible answer. You date other men until you find one you like better. Face it: Men don’t have to say “I love you” to get you in bed. All men have to do to get you in bed is be cute, funny, tall, smart, and successful.You may go out with him again, but you’re not all that into it. Are you a commitmentphobe who has no interest in marriage? And if that’s the case, and we sleep with you based on attraction alone, regardless of whether we have actual FEELINGS for you, it tends to get a little dicey.In short, to keep the peace and avoid conflict, you either do the slow fade (not calling him back immediately), or you continue to see him with reservations about your attraction and excitement. Are you fickle and always looking for someone better? This is not me DEFENDING men; this is me, EXPLAINING men.