The fact that INTPs can enjoy working independently for long periods of time may also discourage them from complicating their lives with relationships.
At some level, INTPs feel like they need people and want an intimate relationship, while on another, they are afraid of losing themselves and their cherished freedom if they commit. Most partners are reluctant to grant them the degree of freedom and autonomy they desire, leading them to try to control the INTP.This of course, prompts the INTP to rebel, which causes the relationship to take a turn for the worse.But because Fe is a legitimate part of INTPs’ functional stack, we should not be too quick to dismiss the potential value of intimate relationships for INTPs. INTPs are often kind and considerate, wanting everyone to feel included and treated with respect (Fe). These functions contribute to their wittiness, personability, and sincerity, conferring a childlike innocence that others find refreshing.
Drenth While sometimes presenting as aloof or self-focused, INTPs often attract potential mates through their Extraverted Intuition (Ne) and Extraverted Feeling (Fe).They are slow to speak negatively of others, able to forgive and forget what other types might find offensive.Such qualities, combined with their intelligence and ambitiousness, can be of great appeal to prospective partners.Because of their Fe inferior, INTPs can enjoy being around people.Even if not directly engaging with them, they can feel enlivened by the background presence of others (assuming they are not perceived as obnoxious or intrusive).However, because of their dominant function’s penchant for inner control and autonomy (Ti), INTPs can be leery of making Fe commitments, which carry the potential to shackle their independence.