Q: I want to tell a female friend I have feelings for her. A: In my opinion, building a friendship first is the best way to start a relationship. Don’t just say you love her and ask if she’s feeling it, too. “Rather than having a conversation that has the potential to change the dynamics of the relationship in a negative way, why not bring your her into your regular friend group for either a dinner or daytime activity? “Have her interact with some of your other female friends, or even a married couple.” Only ask people whose opinions you really trust: So not your jokester buddy who never takes things seriously, or that lady-friend who has had feelings for you in the past. Here’s another way to say-it-without-saying-it: “Your Hail Mary is this: Ask her to a movie night and watch ,” says Casey. You’ve probably thought about doing this while you’re drunk, but refrain!
There’s something incredibly amazing and sweet about a guy willing to put in that sort of time before making the gradual move from friends to something more. So instead, work your way into it by following these three steps: 1. “After the movie, ask her if she agrees with Billy Crystal: that men and women can't be friends, that there is always one of them in the relationship who wants to sleep with the other one.” Trust me, she’ll get the hint. There’s nothing remotely clear-cut about that scenario—and ambiguity is the last thing you want. But once you get to this point and you've asked every "what if?
Start making little mentions of how you feel about her.
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So, you have a crush on a friend; most of us have at one point or another. Staying hooked into the fantasy or hope that one day he’ll “wake up” to your sexy awesome-ness is just that: a fantasy.
Instead, take action now to preserve your great friendship AND open up to being found by that man who wants to be your partner. Accept your friendship, but treat it as just that: friendship. As you begin to transition away from seeing him as your crush, it’s time to set more boundaries.
Dating with Dignity has five foolproof ways to get yourself out of the friend zone ASAP. Stick to activities that are friendly only; stop going out to dinner with just the two of you, cooking together, hitting the grocery store to pick up a few things, and movie nights in the theatre (or even worse, at home).
Instead, focus on doing platonic activities such as watching a game together or hanging out in groups.
When something goes awry — or even when you get the best news ever — try to avoid going to him as your “first call,” reaching out instead to people with whom it’s appropriate to make deeper connections. It’s really just to pique your so-called friend’s interest and gauge his reaction to you dating other people.
As you start valuing your friendship in a non-romantic way, you’ll have more time to make yourself available to date, strengthen your other friendships, and as a bonus may find that you either don’t actually like him “that way” once you begin to create some distance. If he’s super supportive of your dating other guys, chances are he sees you as just a friend–and you’ve done yourself a favor by figuring that out.
Over time, your crush may start to see you in a new way as he also detaches from the friend zone, which could lead to his actually asking you out on a date or enable you both to create a truly equal and platonic friendship. This way, you’re also actively opening yourself up to new opportunities in love.
If he seems jealous or doesn’t seem to be enjoying hearing about your dating adventures, ask him why he hasn’t asked you out yet. This doesn’t need to be a conversation where you literally say “I like you as more than friends; what about you?
Often this scenario can set the stage for an honest conversation that perhaps has been a long time coming. ” You can start by talking about your overall dating and relationship goals and asking him what he’s looking for in his love life.