Dear Rosie & Sherry, I have been dating a man seriously for about 8 months. He is extremely thoughtful and caring, and many other good qualities that are hard to find these days.
Two years before I met him, I adopted a dog from the humane society.
This man struggles with the idea of having a dog around if we were married.
He cannot stand the dog being near him or his things, and is afraid it is not safe to have her around babies we have in the future.
I'm the complete opposite because I know my dog’s personality and I know how to handle her.
If we were to get married, this man would want me to give her away.
I don't want to consider that option because she is my responsibility and I care about her a lot.
I don't want to have to choose between a great guy and my dog, and I feel resentful being put in this position by him. Charlotte Rosie and Sherry's Answer: Dear Charlotte, We can identify with your dilemma.One of us is a dog lover and owner, married to someone who has spent more than 14 years regretting the day he agreed his family could adopt a puppy.The other of us can't understand why people make dogs a part of their lives.Our different outlooks help us understand where you and this man are both coming from.You love the pet you rescued from the pound and feel a sense of responsibility to take care of her and keep her safe.This man may never have developed an emotional bond with a pet and may find it difficult to appreciate how a human being can feel connected to an animal.