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In my last post, I discussed the DOs and DON’Ts of handling rejection in dating.
Rejection is an unavoidable part of dating, and the sooner you learn to put it in perspective, the better.
However, that article dealt with rejection in general, the kind of rejection that happens to every person who’s single and out there making an effort. What do you do when you keep getting rejected, when you can’t get a date, can’t make it past the first date or dates?
Repeated rejection can devastate a person’s confidence.
With repeated rejection, you’re not only NOT getting what you want, you have no idea what you’re doing wrong.
People think it’s the not getting what you want that sucks. but it’s the 2nd thing, the NOT KNOWING, that eats people up. When we get rejected repeatedly but don’t know why, we assume the worst.
On some level, we assume we’re not attractive, not worth being with, or some other self-denigrating belief that makes us feel like shit.
Some will blame the other sex for their “stupidity,” others blame themselves for their inherent “unlovableness,” some keep trying the same ineffective techniques, some give up altogether. Start Problem Solving The first thing you do is stop blaming. Instead, see the problem for what it is, and begin attempting to solve it.
As I discuss in my books, don’t blame yourself and don’t blame others. There is no one, and I mean NO ONE, who can’t get dates or find a partner who’s attractive and well-matched to you.
I hear men bitch that you have to be gorgeous or rich to get dates, and I hear women bitch that you have to be gorgeous or young to attract men. But, statistically, most of us aren’t gorgeous or rich, and we still manage to get dates.
Poor and relatively plain people get dates and find partners. If you’re getting rejected repeatedly, the problem isn’t your looks, your age, or your income. you’re not getting asked out or you’re not getting a yes when you ask), you aren’t triggering basic attraction.