But here’s the part you need to understand: it’s not about what you’re wearing on the surface—you don’t need fancy or expensive clothes—what’s important is the message you send to the outside world.Guys who care for their appearance will tell you they don’t do it just to look better—they do it because it makes them feel better.
If you don’t take the time to care about your appearance, you could be unconsciously sending a message to yourself—and to women—about your self-worth. Will it guarantee your success when approaching women?
No, but it sure will make you feel better while trying, and that alone may improve your chances.
Most of us guys are complete idiots when it comes to this.
When you go through a dry spell in your dating life, it’s easy to think “ah well, I just need to wait till the right person comes along.” That could be true, but what if there’s something deeper going on?
What if you’re sabotaging yourself without even realizing it?
Many guys repeat the same dating mistakes over and over.
Here are 4 unconscious dating mistakes that, if you’re making them, are almost certainly ruining your chances with women: Whether you want to believe it or not, women make snap judgments about you based on the way you dress, and the way you carry yourself.
It took me a long time to understand this idea, and I didn’t want to believe it.
I thought, if a woman is going to turn me down because of some superficial thing like the way I dress, then she’s shallow…and why would I want to date her. If a man is well groomed and deliberate about his outfit and his appearance, it shows purposefulness—or at least that he cares enough to take care of himself.
But the truth is, we all make snap judgments about people. Because the surface details about a person are more than surface details. On the other hand, if a man doesn’t seem like he cares about his appearance, it looks like he doesn’t hold himself in very high regard.
And if a woman thinks you don’t care about yourself, why should she care about you?