Photo: Screen Gems/Courtesy Everett Collection"You're seriously staying the night? It was a Tuesday."You're kicking me out after midnight to go home alone? He hesitated before finally nodding."Okay, well, you have to stay on that side of the bed and be quiet. He was a classic Thursday Guy—we had a great time on the weekends but he always had some sort of excuse when it came to weekday plans.
I drifted off to sleep, pleased when he eventually draped his arm around me and pulled me toward him.
The note of panic in his voice made it sound like he was in a hostage situation, trying to reason with his kidnappers."Fine," I answered.
Which was why, on this particular weeknight when I'd finished drinks with friends near his neighborhood, I texted him and told him I was coming over. The frazzled, nervous, naked man I saw in the early light of morning was nothing like the guy I'd gotten to know over the past few weekends.
I got it: Seeing him like this exposed some of his vulnerabilities and made him seem a lot more real than the debonair guy I'd spent the last month dating.
Of course, there are many more Thursday Guys like him out there, dominating the singles scene today.
More evolved than the Friends-with-Benefits Guy, the Thursday Guy knows better than to text you after midnight and isn't shady when his friends spot you both out at a bar.
He knows your hobbies, your alma mater, and your last name.
He responds quickly to texts and will talk you through a sticky work situation. Photo: Dale Robinette/©Paramount Pictures/courtesy Everett Collection Gemma (name has been changed), 28, was thrilled when a casual Tinder date she'd gone on the week before seemed to be turning into something.But ask him to actually hang out on a school night, and he's full of excuses. "For our third date, he asked what my favorite restaurant was and made reservations," she said. He began meeting my friends, and I was like, alright, this has potential. And even though he'd respond to my texts during the week, he wouldn't actually make a plan until the weekend. "I know he's training for a marathon, so it's not like I was jealous, it was just that he was impossible to pin down.I just didn't get it."Jane, also 28, has a similar story. But as soon as the weekend rolled around, I'd get a text asking me what I was up to.A long term flirtatious friendship had recently turned into something more, with her spending Saturday afternoons and evenings hanging out at Dave's apartment or with him and his friends at the sports bar down the block. It was like he had to get all his needs taken care of before he'd see me."So what's the deal? Frame it this way, and Thursday Guys don't sound so different from our super successful, single female friends who refuse to let a man interrupt their ambition…or from ourselves."I call these guys Quality Casual Guys," said Marni Battista, a dating coach based in Los Angeles and founder of And that's the first step in analyzing your Thursday Guy relationship: Are you being a Thursday Girl?"They present as a boyfriend, but for whatever reason, the relationship doesn't progress." And the annoying thing: Usually, the reason is the exact thing that makes them seem like such great relationship material. Battista recommends thinking about how you're framing your own conversations.