The fix: My advice is to block them both the second the status appears. So stop comparing and start blocking, because she might be looking at your profile and thinking the same thoughts, and neither of you deserves to feel inferior.It’ll keep you from creeping and you’ll move on faster if you don’t have the capability to dig deep into her past. You wonder if your ex’s family and friends are comparing you to this new partner, and then you wonder who’s ‘winning’ the ex, and you’ll probably never know how they feel about you in comparison to the new girlfriend/boyfriend.
No one’s here to prove you wrong, so tell yourself whatever you need to hear and accept that as the answer.
| Dating someone close to your ex can be done, but it needs to be handled right.
While you should treat her like you would any other woman you would date, you also need to be prepared for the personal fallout, and the fact that she already knows plenty of details about you.
When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me.
It’s a pretty effective system; I don’t think about what they’re doing or whom they’re doing it with, and gradually the left over feelings start to fade.
But sometimes my island refugees escape via social media raft and decide it’s time to tell Facebook all about their super awesome new relationships.
And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.
Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded.
Here’s how to deal with the weirdness and get back to the mainland, because you have far more important things to do than worry about who your ex is smooching.
You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.
It’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. The fix: It’s important to remember that your relationship ended for a reason, and that no matter how similar or different you are to the you-replacement, that isn’t going to change the fact that you and your ex weren’t a good match.