As a result, this faulty thinking will pervade all of your inner dialogue and strongly affect all of your decision making, not necessarily positively.
As a demonstration of negative consequences, let’s say you find yourself in a lukewarm relationship with someone you don’t truly love just as you are approaching 30 and your gut instincts start telling you something is wrong.
However, since your gut instincts come from subconscious thought you shift into conscious thought to try to understand your feelings. Your conscious thought is where all of your jumbled up, completely messed up and mixed up thoughts lie and then they start looking for rational sense out of things.
but what if I find I don’t love them when we are married, I don’t want to get divorced….
then logic comes in and says would you rather be single and lonely? then, you say screw it, I’m not getting any younger, I’m gonna marry this person.
Then you’ve just made the single biggest mistake of your life.
Did you try to rationalize it, come up with reasons why your gut feeling was wrong, that everything was actually quite perfect and you were destined to be with your partner, that he or she is just the embodiment of perfection? Either that relationship is long dead and over with or you are still in it, feeling worse than ever. There are different levels of conscious thought and subconscious thought, but let’s just focus on conscious and subconscious as the focus of this article.
Which is probably how you found this site in the first place. Subconscious thought deals with the thought process below the surface of that which we are willing to admit to ourselves- this is the world of dreams, gut instincts and sudden, creative inspiration.
Conscious thought, for our purposes, applies to the stream of dialogue that occurs in our heads.There are some areas where conscious thought is absolutely productive and essential for us to achieve or overcome a problem- for example, making a logical deduction, creating and testing a scientific hypothesis or explaining something rational to another person.However, in many cases, conscious thought fails us miserably.You see, as a byproduct of our inner dialogue, conscious thought is rife with the misconceptions, biases, and lies that we tell ourselves. such thoughts as “I’m not good enough”, “that outcome would be terrible” and “things have to be this way” are all things we tell ourselves and then those distortions affect the rest of our inner dialogue detrimentally.As another example, let’s suppose you have been told over and over from a young age by your parents that you should be married and have a family by age 30.As you approach this age, this becomes a part of your inner dialogue since this has evolved into one of your ingrained beliefs.