The study focused on couples who were dating or married, and had been together from anywhere from three months to 53 years; their individual physical appearance (as assessed by undergrad coders, who obviously know what they're doing in that department); and how well and how long the couple knew each other before coupling up.
Many times when we meet people we find attractive, we assume they are out of our league.
This isn’t always the case, and this thinking can shut out potential mates.
If you meet someone that you like, but assume they are out of your league, here are a few things you can do to break the ice.
Be Yourself Don’t try to pretend to be someone you aren’t just to win someone over.
This inevitably makes things worse later when they figure out you presented yourself as something other than you are.
In the long run, the job you hold and the education you received won’t matter a lot when it comes to a relationship if the other person genuinely likes who you are as a person. You’re going to run in to someone who you really want to talk with and they just aren’t going to be receptive. If someone appears to be unapproachable, it’s best not to waste your time.
It’s also important to understand that not everyone is going to be open to talking to strangers.
This doesn’t mean someone is out of your league, it only means you may want to find someone else to approach.
Find a Point of Interest You don’t have to lie to someone to have a good conversation starter.
Know that you should stay away from topics that have anything to do with politics or religion, but you can find something in the local news that everyone has an opinion about.
You could also find something interesting that has happened to you personally.