I got tired of being the one to start communication every single time.But then I got a little email that someone had started communication with me. We got through the first exchange, which is five multiple choice questions apiece just fine.He's answering back in under 12 hours, but it's the weekend, and probably he's just on his computer.
Mine has fuzzy wuzzy stuff like "I must have someone who is a good communicator," and "I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in any situation." Him?Down on his list of "Can't Stand" is "I can't stand someone who is overweight". Everyone has their taste, attraction cannot be dictated, etcetera etcetera.Except for the part where right in my profile I put: "My picture doesn't show it, but I am overweight. I wear flattering clothes and do my best to take care of myself." (Yes, it's a little defensive.So sue me.) So either, this guy didn't read my profile at all, or read it, shrugged his shoulders and sent his stuff on without pausing to consider whether the inclusion of "I can't stand someone who is overweight" might be the least bit helpful. Here's what I'd like: would all the men out there complaining about how women don't like nice guys and only go for bad boys please go and find this man and give him a great big wedgie? Overweight means different things to different people.And, to add a little lemon juice to that romantic paper cut, four of his "Must Haves" specifically have to do with intelligence. Although this guy was thoughtless in his response, maybe his overweight threshhold is waaay higher than you think it is. It's been a while, but can you look at other people's profiles before you've gotten a through a few 'levels'?
He still should have kept his comment to himself, but...water under the bridge. I remember e-harmony setting me up with a few decent women but those did have pictures weren't anything like the women I was attracted to. So either, this guy didn't read my profile at all, or read it, shrugged his shoulders and sent his stuff on without pausing to consider whether the inclusion of "I can't stand someone who is overweight" might be the least bit helpful.And, to add a little lemon juice to that romantic paper cut, four of his "Must Haves" specifically have to do with intelligence.I thought you couldn't browse on e Harmony; that you are dealt profiles of those people Dr.Neil Clark Warren thought were the best match for you, and you have to make best with what's given to you.Was your profile sent as a match to the guy who contacted you, but turned out to say they couldn't stand overweight people?I'd chalk that up to a common phenomenon with online dating services; people just taking a scattershot approach towards contacting people, without actually reading the profiles.