"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." Getting over the "shoulds" "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph. We should marry people within two years of our age.
D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
This can create pain." Voltages are not a factor of age, she says."What you don't want," she explains, "is one partner wanting to go out, the other stay in; one willing to talk, the other wanting space (and silence to enjoy it)." Dealing with the flak Susan Winter is co-author, with Felicia Brings, of "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance".She is 48 and has been in a relationship with a man 20 years younger since 1992.Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).According to a recent AARP poll, one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40s.
It's not what you think -- the stamina or "re-boot" ability of the younger male.The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B. D., a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again", tells Web MD.For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains.The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.Other reasons behind this trend According to Tessina, other reasons underlying this expansion of everyone's dating choices include: But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?"Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R. D., a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades.