Dating is a great way to become conscious of where you are still seeking approval from a person and exposes those buttons that keep you out of balance with your heart and head.4. If you aren’t dating, you aren’t going to meet the one.
Of course, there is the opposite end of the spectrum when you may be over-dating like I was. I did this because I wasn’t really clear and consistent in what I wanted in a partner.
I wanted a spiritual guy but would settle to date the unconscious hot man because he was sexy and fun.
If I had used dating as a learning experience, I would have noticed the pattern of my behavior and made the appropriate adjustments to shorten my single lifespan.
Most singles complain about dating but there are some real benefits to getting out there. They enjoy meeting new people and soak up the attention from the opposite sex. Most of you probably don’t fall into that category.
These singles are constantly on dating sites looking for their next fling or trolling the bars for the next Mr. Whether you have been on the dating circuit for a while or have refused to participate at all, if you hate to date you may need to open your eyes to a new way of looking at this necessary exercise on the path to true love.
Regardless of what type of dater you are – a non-dater or serial dater – if you hate to date, you are missing out on a major relationship learning experience.
From the point you email a person online or have a random conversation in a social setting, you have begun a relationship. When you refuse to date you are depriving yourself of an incredible growth opportunity.
Now, some of these experiences last a few minutes, some weeks and longer but you can learn a lot about yourself and how you handle yourself with the opposite sex through even the shortest of encounters. You push beyond old boundaries that kept love away in the past when you face your fears of rejection and being loved.
If you don’t date, you will simply kick the can down the road avoiding interaction with potential mates and make excuses for why you are still single.2. I know, this sounds a little kinky for those with dirty minds, but I am talking about opening your heart muscle.
Dating can help you work out the kinks in your communication skills so that you are prepared for the real thing when it happens.
You don’t want to go cold turkey into a dream relationship without a little preparatory practice.3. In any relationship, you have to give up control over what the other person feels whether you are dating for a few weeks or married for twenty years.