After never finding it appealing back home, I was convinced by a friend that it would be a good way to make make friends here, as au-pairs are predominantly female. I downloaded the app shortly after arriving in Paris, France.
For those who are unfamiliar, Tinder is a mobile app for dating. If you’re on Tinder, you’re probably familiar with this thought process; this is generally my experience every time I open it. I’m swiping right just to see if he swiped right on me too. A few of mine include nighttime walks in the rain along the Seine, being kissed on a bridge with the Eiffel Tower behind us, riding around the city on the back of a scooter, and strolling hand in hand on the love lock bridge. Even if it seems like they’re not feeling it, it’s definitely possible that you’ll still end up having the romantic French encounter you’ve always (not-so-secretly) wanted.
Others were rather quiet and aloof and then would make their move with an unmistakable gesture—either going in for the kiss at the end of the night or asking for a second date right away. Some dates seemed like they would love to see me again, and then I never heard from them. No, wait, all his photos are selfies and he has this one on here twice. However, if they decide they want to meet you in person, they’ll make a move. On a few of my dates, I had trouble reading the mind of the man sitting across from me. I’ve met guys in bars as well and once was approached on the metro. While many on the app will never initiate conversation or will chat for awhile until one of you decides you’re not interested, the ones who want to see you will ask you out. My friends and I have met many French men through Tinder, and thus have learned a few things about the dating culture as a result: If a Frenchman wants you, you’ll know it.