We could all learn a thing or two from the men of the “greatest generation,” especially the importance of dating intentionally.
If there’s one thing we modern men seem to struggle with, it’s indecisiveness. So rather than setting a goal, like marriage, and pursuing it with gusto, we meander around, taking our time, waiting for some undetermined sign to reveal to us how we should proceed. We might even get serious and talk about marriage, but we are afraid to commit.
We’d rather play it safe and enjoy the benefits of emotional intimacy without any of the risk of a formal engagement. Well, there are several problems with dating without a clear goal of marriage. Women are much more likely to want clear commitment.
If you’ve been dating for a while, your shared emotions are growing intense, you’re talking about children, and yet you show no sign of a proposal, your girlfriend is going to get impatient. If you have no intention of marrying her, you have no business leading her on.But if you do plan to marry her, well, have a clear plan and make it official.Second, the longer you date someone, and the more emotionally heated your relationship grows, the more opportunity you create for temptation to sexual sin.For years now, I’ve had an interested in World War II.I especially love reading first hand accounts of battle from the heroic and courageous men who fought in this war, such as those contained in books by Marcus Brotherton and Stephen Ambrose.
But stories of valor aside, I’m always entertained by how simply these war veterans viewed dating and marriage.
The story of how they met their wives, contained in their biographical sketches, usually goes something like this: “When I got home from my tour of duty, I was at an officers dance and saw Betty. I told my buddy, ‘I’m going to marry that girl,’ and I asked her to dance.
We’ve been married 55 years this year.” In short, these young men came home from the war ready to get married and start a family.
There wasn’t any thought of hooking up, or of dating on and off till their mid thirties, or of living in their parents basement until they landed a cushy job.
No, they were more than ready for the responsibility of marriage and family.
And they went looking for a wife, not a girlfriend.