With all due respect to Salt-N-Pepa, let's talk about Todd. He's a rare breed—a finance guy who lives in L. He's been dating the same ladylike woman for three years.They are the picture of late-twentysomething, Amstel Light—drinking America.
Eventually, Todd did the deed with Miss Ladylike in the usual way, and continues to, but they still have a whole lot of anal sex. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimated that in 2002, 38 percent of men ages 18 to 59 had entered a woman's back door.Thirty-five percent of women ages 25 to 44 had invited men in.Ten years before, only 26 percent of men and 20 percent of women reported having had anal sex."Anal is the new oral," says syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage."I used to get letters from women about giving head.Those letters are now dwarfed by letters from women asking how to take it up the butt." Okay.
But pronouncements and statistics that indicate the rising popularity of rearguard action don't address some nagging questions—the biggest one being how, presuming they haven't had their own rectums messed with, can so many guys justify asking women to let them take the service elevator?Phillip, an engineer in Chicago, says he and his friends request a ride in the back seat because it's a harder-to-reach goal than old-fashioned intercourse."Once a guy has anal sex, he's put on a pedestal by his peers," he says. ' At first they were like, ' No, it will hurt.' Then time after time of having sex with them they finally said okay.He claims he hasn't had much trouble getting women to agree to it. It hurt them the first time, but after that they always said they enjoyed it—if not a little, then a lot."For other men, the appeal of anal penetration is less the novelty—and the fact that it gives them a good story to tell over beers—and more the psychology."For most of my friends, it's sort of a domination thing," says John (not his real name), 30, a writer in New York."[It's] basically getting someone in a position where they're most vulnerable.