And while there are plenty of benefits to being (and staying) solo, we understand the allure of finding that special someone.
Avoid swear words, as these can make some people wary, and use spellcheck to be sure you don’t come off as careless or… But don’t be afraid to be funny and show your sense of humor.
This make you seem more approachable if someone appreciates your wit, Salkin says.
Plus, if someone opts not to message you back because they don’t like your style of hamming it up, that’s fine—you probably wouldn’t get along with them anyway. No one wants to read a 1,200-word essay on your childhood.
Nor should you see a dating profile as a platform to outline your political agenda, pet peeves with humanity, or all the insights you've gained from therapy.
Choose photos and details that best represent you, Salkin says.
Uploading untruths attracts folks who don’t share your true interests and courts difficulty once you have to explain yourself.If you’re not a partier, don’t post a shot of you out and about with a beer in each hand.If you prefer to sleep in on weekends, don't lie about loving your 7 a.m. Same goes for images of you doing sports or activities you’d rather not try again, or listing hobbies you aren’t actually into but claim to be just to seem cool.Be honest about what you're looking for, but don't get too "heavy" about it.Think: "Looking for someone who loves old movies / who reads / who's active and enjoys the outdoors." Not: "Looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, who supports me unconditionally, and loves me for all my flaws." (We all want that, but shoving it in everyone's face right off the bat can feel intimidating, oppressive, and desperate.) “There is nothing less informative than, ‘I am very close to my family and friends’ or ‘I love to go to dinner and hang out with my family and friends,’" Salkin says.Avoid generalizations and be specific to stand out from the rest of the online crowd: “Instead of ‘I love to travel,’ say where you’ve traveled, how often you travel, if you do it for work or for pleasure, or where you’d like to go in the future,” she suggests.